Yes, I been divorced three times and thirved.

While that doesn’t say much about the success of my marriages, it does say a lot about my experience in the divorce arena. Let’s be clear - I don’t “believe” in divorce. However, the reality is that you are only one person in a two-person relationship and, while no one ever really wants it, divorce can happen whether you initiate it or not. 

I have experienced three very different divorce situations with a variety of considerations. The first divorce, after 10 years of marriage, was amicable in spite of being painful and involved a child. My greatest success has been in co-parenting a daughter with her best interests as the priority. She is now a strong, successful woman. The second divorce followed a 10-week marriage with a man who deceived me. The third, following a 25+ year marriage, was co-petitioned but involved more complex aspects. I have successfully transitioned two of those marriages into friendships. Throughout all three divorces, I have thrived and ultimately created a better life.

I have also learned a lot in the past decades. I offer my experience of not only being divorced three times but also being married 3 times, being a single mom, living single and nearly 4 years of focused learning that has brought me to a life that’s better than I ever thought possible. What I offer is not merely my opinion, but is based on my work with professionals in a variety of industries, in addition to my experience. My hope is that my personal experience coupled with the wisdom of professionals will be of benefit in easing your divorce journey.

“When I met Trish, it was at a time in my life when I didn’t feel seen. I felt invisible. Trish is one of the most caring people I know. She is down to earth, doesn’t judge you no matter what your circumstances are. You will be blessed to have her as your guide. ”
— KWP

I have a B.S. in Systems Analysis and Design. After spending 18 years developing computer systems for a Fortune 500 company, I went on to co-found both a national dance education company and a national nonprofit prevention theater company focused on helping at-risk teens. Most recently, I founded a company to provide resources to CareHeros®, those who provide care for another, based on my reference-style Comfort in their Journey® three-book series. I am a Black Belt instructor of The Nia Technique® and have been licensed since 1999.

 
 

Using my previous computer, teaching, and presentation experience in combination with attending the DivorceCare® program. I bring calm to the chaos of divorce by identifying, focusing on and simplifying the tasks necessary to prepare for and allow you to thrive while moving though it, and empower and guide you to envision, create and step into your new life afterwards.

 

Bringing Calm to the Chaos

Guiding You

Stepping into Your Future

Divorce is a course redirection ...

Divorce often causes you to feel overwhelmed and emotionally drained, which can result in making prioritizing tasks, decision making and executing strategies not only challenging but also often less than optimal.

I will assist you in identifying your goals and challenges, and creating a plan and detailed strategy for success by:

  • Clarifying the steps and nuances of the unfamiliar divorce process, shining light on the things that you don’t know but need to know and bringing you peace of mind

  • Identifying your options and potential alternatives, weighing the pros and cons of each possibility and providing objective advice so that you can make informed decisions instead of costly mistakes

  • Prioritizing and simplifying the tasks that seem daunting, such as bill payment and making housing decisions

  • Streamlining questions, gathering information and creating drafts of documents in preparation for meetings with legal, financial and other professionals, reducing the cost of working with them

  • Sharing perspective and discussing techniques on engaging and communicating with the other person, whether considering co-petitioning for divorce, settlement terms, negotiating mediation or co-parenting

  • Focusing your energy toward completing the transactional tasks necessary for you to create and live your best new life

My focus is on YOU!

I will be the voice of reason and reassurance, offering you time-tested, objective advice and resources that will set you up to thrive throughout the process from preparation to execution through your final transformation.

“Trish approached the divorce process as a business transaction. She presented the process in a step-by-step manner, helped me understand the possible outcomes and organized the necessary paperwork, making it feel less overwhelming and doable.”
— JMF

Whenever something has happened in my life that I didn’t want to happen, I have always tried to make it worth something, to get something positive out of it that I otherwise would not have … to learn, to grow, to create ... to make it COUNT!

I want to help you make it count too!

You get to create your new life

Even if divorce isn’t what you want, you get to design and create the next best phase of your life. I will help you step into your vision for your life moving forward by:

  • Focusing on your ultimate goals for creating your next best life, not only reentering life but also stepping fully into the next phase

  • Smoothing the transition of your life from being divorced to living single and considering any changes in your life that might be beneficial because of it

  • Creating a plan for your social support needs considering your relationships with family and friends; community with social friends; and yes, eventually reentering the dating world

  • Protecting your future by identifying financial and estate planning needs, as well as safeguards for future relationships

  • Evaluating what steps can be taken for continued learning, healing and growth

  • Identifying and evaluating any 65+ “silver services” opportunities that might be available, when applicable

“I would never be where I am today if it hadn’t been for Trish. She had so many suggestions to help ease the transition into this new phase of my life. She also offered me encouragement that I would survive and actually thrive! ”
— BL