“People speak of HOPE as if it is this delicate, ephemeral thing made of whispers and spider’s webs. It’s not. Hope has dirt on her face, blood on her knuckles, the grit of the cobblestones in her hair, and just spat out a tooth as she rises for another go.”
— Unknown
 

Getting divorced is certainly not something any of us aspired to when we were young. Most of us didn’t anticipate going through a divorce when we got married. Some prepared “in case” by signing a prenuptial agreement, but even those didn’t really anticipate ever having to execute the agreement.

Divorce is a redirection of your life … often causing you to feel overwhelmed and emotionally drained, which can result in making prioritizing tasks, decision making and executing strategies not only challenging but also often less than optimal.

As a divorce guide, I am the voice of reason and reassurance amid the chaos. Whether you are considering a divorce, in the middle of the process or even legally divorced, there are things to know and consider at every stage. I can help you from preparation to execution through transformation.

Together, you and I will clearly identify your goals, create a plan and detail a path to reach them. I will bring clarity to a process that is unfamiliar to you and help you know what you don’t know but need to know. By weighing the pros and cons of your decisions, and defining your needs, you will be better able to make rational choices rather than costly mistakes.

Additionally, our work together will help you streamline your questions and tasks and gather the information for document preparation, potentially reducing the cost of working with legal, financial and other professionals who would otherwise charge much higher rates for the same work.  For example, the average hourly rate charged by divorce lawyers in Colorado is between $250 and $400+ and the average hourly estate attorney fee is $300+, with financial professional fees in a similar range.

I will also help you navigate your post-divorce transition so that you can make the decisions and modifications necessary to help you move into the best version of the next phase of your life, allowing you to thrive throughout the process.

Divorce can be traumatic. Because of the wide range of emotions often experienced in divorce, I understand you may have strong emotions about the person from whom you have, may or will be divorcing. And while family and friends are well meaning, they are often biased and may direct some of your energy against the other person.

My focus is on YOU. I will promote minimizing any temptation to create drama with or negative energy toward the other person and redirect that energy to completing the transactional tasks necessary for you to create your best possible future. I can offer perspective and techniques on interacting with the other person, but I recommend that you process your emotions with a professional therapist, if necessary, so that they don’t become a barrier to reaching your ultimate goals. 

Even if divorce isn’t what you want, it is the opportunity to create a different life, one that you get to define. Whenever something has happened in my life that I didn’t want to happen, I have always tried to make it worth something, to get something positive out of it that I otherwise would not have … to learn, to grow, to create … to make it COUNT! I want to help you do that too.