Standing Outside the Fire.
/At different points in my life I have listened to the Garth Brooks song Standing Outside the Fire on repeat. It has spoken to me about stepping into the fire of life instead of observing life from a place of safety outside the fire. He says, “Life is not tried it is merely survived, if you’re standing outside the fire.” There is much that I could say about this line alone, as it complements the blurb, Be the Bison.
It occurred to me that divorce is like a house fire in which everything you once knew is at risk of being consumed by the flames. Are you moving away from the heat and devastation, staying outside the fire, or are you moving toward it “to dance within the flame” and then, after much work, put the flames out and move forward. The song made me wonder, if you could save only 5 things from the flames of your home, what would they be? What items do you value most? What has real value to you?
During a divorce, people often get caught up on who gets what and at times they are merely battling over things that they don’t even care about. How much of what you own really makes a difference in your ability to move forward with your life? What is truly worth fighting for and is fighting stopping you from moving ahead with your life? Are you making choices to punish the other or to expediate moving forward?
“Life is not tried it is merely survived, if you’re standing outside the fire,” the fire of divorce. Step in, feel the heat, sweat the sorrow, grab only what is most important to you and then proudly walk out and into the next phase of your life.
